manipulation.. people are very good at that.. i am.. i often use it on other ppl, i used to.. but lately ive found that ive lost my edge.. probably because ive found out i also have been manipulated.. its a weird feeling, kicking oneself for letting it happen but really it depends on how you were used.. if you were a guy and being used as a sex object, i think alot of guys would find worse things than that.. and no alas i was not a sex object..

keeping me and my manipulations aside cause this is my blog, lets talk about what girlfriends do, they will tell you that your friends are as important as my friends, they will tell you you are the next most important part of their lives after their family (they dont disclose how big this family is) they will then show you kilos, which then become grams and finally ounces of love within the reaches of their mood, and then at any given time may want to discuss the shortcomings of their previous boy friendS, and you sit there wondering, why all of them left.. you will soon know after about.. well 5 months..

the first month is cool, you talk, you hang out, you get all the loving you`ll ever need.. this is the point where a manipulative boyfriend or a girlfriend keeps you in a small loving cage fattening you up with treats of "love".. and you fall for it too.. when the 2nd month comes around you are already, ready to take the next step.. the first make out session.. here men n women differ.. a man would do it because he wants to do it.. but a girl has an agenda.. "if you see my tit, your tat belongs only to me"... yes guys this is where you go wrong.. this isnt just a make out session for women.. i dunno what it is but its a big deal.. and ofcorse im not talking about all women..

the third month.. the first fight.. you were late, you were too horny, you didnt say goodmorning or good night... if a guy/girl does nothing to significantly damage the relationship the other one will find a lame excuse to fight about, and im sorry girls ive seen this mostly from you.. anyway this is an issue of control.. who wins the fight? who gives up first? who wants to make up first? its all a play for control, sometimes you loose, sometimes you win big...hehe.. sigh..

at the end of the third month USUALLY the guy would want to take the physical part a little bit further... atleast thats what he`ll say.. "C`mon we`ve already seen each other.. theres this thing my ex wudnt let me do..." if it was a girl she would say, "C`mon we`ve already seen each other.. theres this thing i didnt let my ex do to me"... both very hard to turn away.. cause for a girl she wants to be better than the ex.. and for a guy who wudnt do something "that ex looser boyfriend of hers" coudnt do...?

by this point.. comes the fourth month and if you look clearly at a couple or hang out with one you will see who has the control.. ever had a friend who would leave a coffee cup half empty because his girlfriend just called? and its vice versa... for some people its a given i mean some like to take control and others like to give it.. so for some couples it works.. but for others.. major disaster coming ppl.. stay away from friends who are dating and are both your friends.. that has to be a major health risk for you.. this i call the calculas dilemma..

in any case around the fifth month you will usually fight, some call their ex and some are already looking for a good way out.. for these ppl i say.. if you are a guy.. there is no clean way to break up with a girl..you will always break her heart.. anyway.. the fifth month is usually crucial for most couples cause this is the point where the relationship line which was going upwards, slows down and then plunges... fights, fights, fights.. its an unbelievable.. some ppl get past this.. others dont.. some find it inevitable.. some find it stupid to keep it going.. in anycase all of these fights can come back again.. there is no guarantee that they wont.. i mean ppl make mistakes.. and with every mistake you are reminded of more mistakes.. i guess thats just how a verbal fight works.. you win by knowing the worst things your opponent has done to you...

but for the ppl who come out of this worm hole, happy and beaming.. i salute you.. i might even hug you.. but my friends say i already do gay things so.. ok salute.. ive never found that place in any of my relationships where you can just well do nothing, get nothing and still feel content...